I. Bug’s Links
- Jace Harr. Professional homepage and writing portfolio (not mental health-related).
- You Feel Like Shit. An interactive guide/app to help you do self care when you feel like shit.
- Patreon. Your monthly support on Patreon, plus occasional Paypal donations, is the only money I make from any of my mental health projects. Please consider supporting me!
- LinkedIn. Includes my resume.
- Personal Facebook Page. Connect with me.
- Easy Anarchism Wiki. This Wiki is for people who find anarchist “theory” texts to be cumbersome, dense, or confusing. Please consider participating and adding your relevant knowledge!
- DepressionResource. Now-defunct Tumblr page with original articles as well as reblogs.
II. Other Patreons to Support
- Rhizome Syndrigast Coelecanth Flourishing. Support this nonbinary writer on Patreon as well as friending them on Facebook for decidedly uncomfortable thoughts on race, gender, social justice spaces, and composting.
- MeMax Arts. Detailed, fantastical illustrations focusing on outrageous and unnerving characters. Check out Max’s lizards in clothes for some extra good stuff!
- Hello Cruel World: 101 Alternatives to Suicide for Teens, Freaks and Other Outlaws. Kate Bornstein, a transsexual writer, gives us this great guide for anyone who struggles with suicidal thoughts. There are 101 ideas, big and small, for changing your life so you stop wanting to die. This guide is focused on fellow transgender people, but could benefit everyone, especially teenagers. She’s stubbornly clinging to life, as many of us are, and she also has a great sense of humor– making this a really fun and engaging read. I definitely recommend you keep it around as a reference.
- The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk. This classic text on trauma and the body is a must-read for everyone who is discovering the depth of their life history. It focuses on science and research rather than personal wisdom, but that doesn’t mean it’s not compelling. The truth may hurt, though, so be sure to take breaks whenever you need to if you pick up this book.
- Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft. This book is a must-read for anyone affected by interpersonal abuse, especially domestic violence from men. The author has worked with abusive men in carceral contexts and can really explain what an abusive person is thinking and why they do what they do.
IV. Emotions & Feelings
- How to Know When You Are Having a Feeling. Dr. Jonice Webb brands herself as the expert on Childhood Emotional Neglect. While the ability to know if you’re having a feeling may seem like a basic survival necessity, many of us actually don’t notice and/or interpret our feelings very well at all. This article focuses on the clues that show us we’re having a feeling as well as how to identify and name them. (She does advertise buying her book to find a feelings list, but you can find those elsewhere on the internet in a variety of forms.)
- How Every Feeling You Have Carries a Message and Has a Purpose. This is another article from Dr. Jonice Webb. It follows up on the idea of identifying your feelings by telling you what your feelings mean when they come up, in the form of a simple chart.
A. Emotional Labor
- Emotional Labor: What It Is and How To Do It. This article is a primer (especially for men) on how to take on more emotional labor in your relationships and thereby ease the burden on your woman/fem loved ones. It references a key Metafilter thread, in which the idea of emotional labor was introduced to many people for the first time. Full of examples!
V. Social Justice
- Out of the Attic: Dissociation and Social Justice. This article describes a workshop focused on issues like privilege, violence, and trauma. Long and involved, but has a very good introduction to the concept of dissociation and an extensive list of dissociative symptoms. Useful both to people with dissociative disorders and those trying to best accommodate them.
- Racial Disparities in Psychotic Order Diagnosis. People of color and immigrants are disproportionately diagnosed with the more-stigmatized psychotic disorders. This article reviews the literature on the phenomenon and its possible causes.
- White Witchery. Do you ever think about where your crystals come from? How often do we, as witches, look the other way? Click through for this very enlightening article by a native witch on whiteness in the occult. Really, it’s a meditation on PTSD and the intergenerational trauma of colonized peoples.
B. Sex Positivity
- Codependency & (Anti-) Capitalism. If you struggle with boundary issues in relation to your activism, this article is an insightful look at how prevalent that is and what we can do about it. These ideas about the necessity of self-sacrifice are one of the ways that capitalism has an insidious grasp on us. Remember that your worth is always inherent and never depends on what you can “do,” even when those actions are for a righteous cause. (Check out the rest of this website for more articles from a still-publishing radical newspaper centered in California’s Bay Area. )
A. Interpersonal Abuse
1. Child Abuse
- Wounds That Time Won’t Heal: The Neurobiology of Child Abuse. This rather long journal article from 2000 is a little dated in terms of its definitions of psychiatric disorders, but it’s a valuable resource for its insistence that abused people can’t just “get over it.” Also includes a brief history of the recognition of child abuse.
2. Sexual Violence
a. Tonic Immobility
- Sexual Consent & Tonic Immobility: When “No” is Not an Option. This is an interesting foray into neurology that helps us understand why we might not “fight or flee” during an assault. It deals extensively with the “tonic immobility” we might encounter, and discusses how to respond if you think someone close to you is exhibiting a freeze response. Includes a short documentary for people who may prefer video, as well as a guide to talking about your sexual trauma.
VII. Recovery & Healing
- 15 Trauma Healing Goals – Symbolic Representations. This is a set of visuals representing trauma healing goals, which may be a relevant jumping-off point for people trying to set recovery goals.
- Healing from Complex Trauma. Here is the homepage of a website dedicated to Complex PTSD and the healing process, written by Lilly Hope Lucario.
- 5 Reasons Forgiveness is Not a Good Way to Heal articulates why we don’t need to forgive our abusers and why forcing ourselves to forgive too early can impede our recovery.
- Pods and Pod Mapping Worksheet. This transformative justice organization’s website deals with accountability surrounding childhood sexual abuse, for “survivors, bystanders, and people who have harmed.” This particular article is about your accountability “pod,” or individuals who you would trust with the partaking in the accountability process.
B. Somatic Experiencing
VIII. Mental Illness
- Why I’m Done Being a “Good” Mentally Ill Person. This evocative article explores the differences between being a “good” mentally ill person and a vilified one, often in ways related to functioning labels and other inherently harmful hierarchies.
- Recovery Library by Pat Deegan. Pat Deegan’s recovery library is behind a paywall, but it has many resources for mentally ill people and their loved ones. Sponsorships are available for those who cannot afford $5 a month for access.
A. Borderline Personality Disorder
C. PTSD & C-PTSD
- New Synapse. This website in its entirety is a great resource for those seeking help with PTSD.
- 7 PTSD Feedback Loops. This article from New Synapse describes the author’s experiences with feedback loops that deepen the experience of PTSD.
- What is Dissociation? This article deals with some of the confusion surrounding the concept of dissociation, which can show up as a time-limited experience (an “episode” of dissociation) or as a problem in the fundamental structure of the mind.
- “But I Work With Real Autistic People Who Can’t Communicate At All!” This article, from an autistic writer, reminds us that behavior is communication and that many of the behaviors we associate with autism are often distress signals.
- Conserving Spoons. A discussion surrounding Spoon Theory (with a link to the original if you’re unfamiliar). How can we conserve our spoons, and what is the best strategy to do so? What is truly draining our spoons? Deals specifically with the autistic experience, but can broadly be applied to all disabilities.
The Triangle of Victim, Rescuer, Persecutor – What It Is and How to Get Out.